Order from Pastel Galaxyz

About two weeks ago, I placed an order for one of Pastel Galaxyz' Dreamy Bow Rings and I just got the package today! I'm super excited about it because it's even cuter in person >w<

I placed the order on March 15th and, since I am the worst at using paypal, I used the echeck option so it took a couple of days for my payment to be processed. Once it was, the package was shipped out the following Monday and it arrived today after the strangest detour to the town like fifteen miles away where I haven't lived for three years.

The mailer was pink and very well sealed with super cute Hello Kitty tape, and it fit into my apartment's very narrow mail box with room to spare, which is always nice. It felt much fuller than a single ring could warrant and my excitement skyrocketed.

Inside were two smaller packages sealed in the cutest little bags ever. The pink one held the ring I ordered and the blue one held not one, not two, not even three, but four extra goodies.

In addition to the ring I ordered, I got three bracelets and a second ring! The ring is a My Little Pony mold that looks kind of like Pinky Pie, but I could be wrong there. Whoever it is, it's super cute and a great surprise addition to my accessory collection. The candy bracelet and the heart bracelet are also super cute and will be great with some of my lolita. The third bracelet, the one on the far left in the above picture, is kandi style, with elastic string instead of metal findings, and is the most wonderfully absurd collection of adorable beads I have seen since I was actually a kandi kid myself.

The construction of all the items I received is top notch. The rings are both nice and solid and securely glued to the ring bases very neatly. While the bow ring has a perfectly flat back, the pony ring is not quite as clean and has a bit of a raised edge around the head. This doesn't effect wearability at all and, as a free surprise gift, I have absolutely no complaints. The kandi style bracelet is made with two strands of super strong plastic elastic string with a very solid knot and all excess strings neatly clipped. The two bracelets with metal finds are both very well put together with no gaps in the jump rings.

Over all, I am amazingly pleased with my order from Pastel Galaxyz. I definitely recommend them and I'll definitely be ordering from them again. Thank you so much Pastel Galaxyz for the amazing ring and all the amazing gifts <3

15. 5 Tips For Newbies I Wish I Had Found In A Guide

Late last week a new guide for newbie lolitas went live. I was super excited because, as a relatively new lolita, I love to read more knowledgeable lolitas' guides to the fashion. Unfortunately, this guide was very disappointing for many reasons. You can read my beef with the section on body modifications here on tumblr as well as some incredible takedowns here by lace-a-la-mode and here by lapinchocolat.

This post is not about that guide. This post is instead about some tips I would have loved to have seen in a guide when I first started out.

1. Don't be afraid to mess up!

A lot of what I see from newbie lolitas is them being afraid that they'll mess up a coord and be shamefully labeled ita. Even with a year's worth of practice under my frilly belt, I still sometimes worry if the outfit I've put together is good enough to actually be called lolita. However, I have learned a lot more about putting together coords from trial and error than I did from the two or three years of research I did before I took the plung and bought my first jsk. There's definitely a lot a newbie lolita can learn from more experienced lolitas -- good cheap places to buy from, what sites to are scams, reassurance that not everything has to be burando -- but when it comes to learning how to put together well balanced cords, experience tends to trump research.

2. Don't be afraid to experiment!

It seems that the western lolita community as a whole sometimes gets stuck on some guidelines taken as gospel truth as to what is or is not lolita, which can be really intimidating to newbie lolitas. I know it was something that intimidated me a lot and, like I said, I still sometimes worry whether my coords are lolita enough. However, when I look at Japanese lolitas, especially old school lolitas, I see a lot more willingness to experiment and that leads to some really neat coords. I feel like as long as something is good quality and matches the color scheme, theme or tone of a coord it can totally be used in lolita. Besides, at the end of the day, lolita is just clothing so people should be free to wear their lolita items however makes them happy.

3. Just save up!
One of the big reasons why I didn't actually start building a lolita wardrobe earlier is because of how much things cost! Yes, there are some places to get things for pretty cheap, such as Bodyline, but over all, lolita is a very expensive fashion. Even a coord made completely from Bodyline items can easily run up to 100 usd! Compared to all the thrift shop clothes I had been buying, that's a ton of money to spend, especially at one time. However, it is totally possible to put away a little money at a time to save up for a Bodyline order, or a Taobao order, or even burando!

4. Ordering clothes online isn't as scary as it seems.
The other big reason it took me so long to start buying lolita is because I'd have to order things online. Part of my hesitance was because I'm super busty and dramatically proportioned, so I have a hard time finding clothes that fit me well in person. Ordering something online before I've even tried it on was terrifying! Armed with my measurements though, from bust circumference to foot length, I've been able to successfully order clothes that fit me surprisingly well. The only problem is, once you make that first order, you just want to buy more.

5. Accessories can change the tone of the entire coord.
I recently achieved a couple of large, chunky ring that look great with my lolita wardrobe and with them I learned how much accessories can change the tone of a coord. My coords went from casual and mature to youthful and kawaii just from going from a slim, understated ring to a big ol' huge one. Even just a few larger accessories do a lot to making a coord seem more over the top than slighter accessory equivalents. Keeping this in mind, it's much easier to achieve the specific look I want for each coord.

Of course, information such as the anatomy of a lolita outfit and run downs of the main substyles are very helpful to newbies, but every guide has those. These are the top five things I wish I would have found in a guide when I first started.

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31. Impulse buys that were totally worth it

From the Clockwork Rose tumblr

My very first lolita item purchase was totally an impulse buy and it's defined my entire wardrobe in a way that I really love. I came across the promo images for Clockwork Rose's Twinklebat series, pictured above, and absolutely fell in love. Then, a couple weeks later, it went back up for reservation and I jumped on the opportunity to buy this gorgeous piece of indie brand and I have never looked back. 

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18. Trends I thought I would never get into, but I now love

When I first discovered lolita, I fell in love with Mary Magdalene, so all the way up until I actually started buying lolita I intended on becoming a classic lolita. That didn't exactly happen so really, any sweet lolita trend I take part in was not something I ever thought I would get into, lol. However, a lolita wide trend that I didn't like at first was peignoirs. I thought they looked really silly in lolita at first but they've really grown on me the more I've seen coords with them. They make classic and gothic coords very elegant and sweet coords extra cute and over all, coords with peignoirs are extra princessy. I don't think I'll ever incorporate a peignoir into my wardrobe myself but I super love seeing coords with them.

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12. Combining other fashions with Lolita

I love lolita combined with other fashions so much. Gothic lolita with western goth influences, sweet lolita with fairy kei influences, classic lolita with otome influences, I love it all. Mixing styles (and doing it well) leads to really gorgeous, really unique coords.

Plenty of sweet lolitas take inspiration from decora and fairy kei already, especially with OTT coords, and otome inspired coords are on the rise as skirt hems drop, but what I would really love to see more when it comes to mixing styles is incorporating western alternative fashions. Although rare, punk lolita is already a subset of lolita fashion, but just imagine lolita with biker leather.

Killstar Clothing

Or a cybergoth lolita wearing sparkly cyberlox, big chunky pink Demonia boots, and a clear plastic jsk over a colourful petti. Or a kandi kid lolita with fishnet sleeves under their blouse and kandi up to their elbows and cute chucks and their headbow and purse made of pony beads. Lolita is an incredibly versatile fashion that, with a bit of imagination, can be combined with just about any other alt fashion out there and it's so great :D

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28. Bloomers or no bloomers?

Yes to bloomers, or at least some sort of shorts. They're great for many things -- keeping people from spotting your underwear, keeping your thighs from chafing or sticking to things when you sit, extra warmth in the winter, not having to wear full tights in the summer for the aforementioned thigh chafing/sticking problem. I've also found them super helpful for keeping my lace tights from felting where my thighs rub together.

9. 5 keywords that describe my personal Lolita style

Bats, bones, spooky, pink/black and lavender/black.

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42 & 43

42. The ways in which I fit the cliche

I'm cute, sweet, a little pudgy, conventionally attractive with wide eyes and dimples. I'm pigeon toed and I stutter. I'm super enthusiastic about the things I like and I tend to speak in a kawaiidesu animu voice and I collect dolls and I love pastries (and my boyfriend was a pastry chef, hence why I'm kind of pudgy lol) and the colour pink. Basically I look sugary sweet and adorable.

43. The ways in which I do not fit the cliche

I'm pretty well known in fandom circles for the hardcore kink porn I write. I'm in a D/s relationship and I've modeled nude and I'm huge into body mods, especially hard mods. If I'm not speaking in my kawaiidesu voice my voice is instead deep and masculine and my laugh is an ugly witch cackle. At one point I was an incredibly good shot with rifles. I'm mentally ill and physically disabled and I have huuuuuuuge boobs. The dolls I collect are creepy and I also collect bones and bat related things. I curse up a storm and know more synonyms for dicks than anyone should and I know entirely way too much about cannibalism. Basically I'm creepy and weird and my roommate's coworkers are half convinced I'm going to end up a serial killer.

The juxtaposition between my personality and my aesthetic is hilarious imo.

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