16. Ten Facts About My Wardrobe

Since I have an alternative hair cut, I only have a few options for loliable hairstyles, thusly I have a serious lack of hair accessories. I recently bought a wig so I can branch out a little more in this regard but I still don't have a whole lot of things to put on my head. On a related note, I have five different plain black bows. They're all different, despite being the same colour, and I somehow manage to use them all.

I make a lot of my own jewelry. About half my earrings and bracelets, and a third of my necklaces are all handmade by me. I really like making my own jewelry since it means I can tailor everything to my specific taste, since it can be hard to find cute jewelry with creepy themes that I like.

My absolute favourite theme to incorporate into my coords is bats. Right now, I only have a bat themed jsk and a bat necklace, but I also have some bat print fabric I plan on making into a skirt. I also recently ordered a super cute bat purse that should arrive soon and one of my next purchases will be Antique Beast's bat headress and those two things will likely end up in a LOT of my coords. However, besides bats, I have no other theme I can play off of without buying a bunch more things.

Right now, I only have four main colours in my wardrobe : black, white, pink and lavender. With the exception of a couple of offbrand items I've managed to coord, everything I own for lolita is one of those four colours.

One of the coords I'm the most proud of is an ero lolita coord pairing a sheer black blouse with my Twinklebat jsk worn as a skirt. I think I do a pretty good job of bringing a mature, sexy element to the coord while not sacrificing any of the lolita elements. Another coord I'm very proud of is a punk lolita coord that I have a variation of consisting entirely of offbrand or handmade items! Part of the reason I'm so proud of these two coords is because they're substyles that are rarely done because they're so hard to pull off, but I feel like they're some of my best coords.

With the exception of my Twinklebat jsk, every lolita item I own I spent a long time thinking over so I really, really love everything I own. I only buy things that will fit in with what I already own or plan to buy soon so I don't have a bunch of mismatched items I can't coord with anything. This is a great way to go about buying lolita but it was a habit I already had when I started buying lolita, lol.

Lastly, I have a pair of baby pink go go boots I intend to somehow coord with lolita. I have no idea how I'm going to manage this but I really, really want to try because I love style mixing so much.

Part 21/52 of the Lolita 52 Week Challenge.

6. Favourite Lolita Brands

I've been a fan of lolita for something like ten (!!!!) years now. The fashion has gone through many changes in that time and so have I, so choosing just one brand that I love above all others is pretty much impossible. It doesn't help that I'm still a newbie when it comes to actually wearing lolita and, as such, I own no burando, but I have narrowed things down to three sections : my first love, what I like to look at, and what I like to buy.

Mary Magdalene's Enid Op

I've mentioned before how Mary Magdalene transformed my love of the fashion from passive observation to an active desire to wear these beautiful frilly clothes. I loved, and still love, the clean lines, the muted colours, and the elegant designs of the brand. Even though I no longer want to wear classic lolita myself, I love the look of it and Mary Magdalene will likely remain my favourite brand for the substyle for years to come.

A quick look at last month on my tumblr

Going by what I reblog most on tumblr, my favourite brand these days is hands down Angelic Pretty. It's not super surprising since I am predominately a sweet lolita and nothing beats Angelic Pretty's super cutesy prints. All the bows, sweets, and pinks the brand showcases has a real place in my heart and one day I would love to own some items from them.

Rouge Aerie's Nightmare Rising

Based on what I actually buy, western indie brands are without a doubt my favourite. The above jsk is my next purchase and with it, just about half my lolita wardrobe will be from western indie brands. They're the best option for me since I am both a plus size lolita and not a traditional sweet lolita. Western indie brands fit my body and my style better than burando and buying from them lets me support artists who love the same things I do.

I don't think I'll ever have a one true brand that I love above all others. Every lolita brand out there has something special to offer and I, personally, am more than happy to love them all.

Part 20/52 of the 52 Week Lolita Challenge.

1. 5 pieces that every Lolita wardrobe should have, regardless of style.

My list of things every lolita should have is a bit... out of the norm. Instead of focusing on main pieces that lolitas need to fill out their wardrobes, I kept my list to the little things people may not even think about.

First up on my list is sunglasses. It's no secret that I love sunglasses, partially because I'm grossly photosensitive, but mostly because they're a great accessory that's really underrated. There has been a recent surge in styles sunglasses are being made in, from the simple to the OOT, so there's definitely a pair out there for every lolita's personal style. Lapin Chocolat did a post on cute loliable sunglasses that you can find here.

My next two items are things that you can't actually wear, but are great to have on hand anyway. A tube of E-6000 glue can make a real difference when the soles of your cute shoes start to peel away from the upper, saving you tons of money, and jewelry pliers will save the day when the findings of your favourite jewelry start to warp.

Two-way clips come in fourth on my list for sheer versatility. Wear them in your hair, wear them on your clothes, wear them clipped to your bag or your shoes; the possibilities are endless when you have both an alligator clip and a pin back.

Lastly, I think every lolita should have a handful of handkerchiefs. Mythbusters may have proven that handkerchiefs are actually really grossly unsanitary for blowing your nose, but they have tons of other uses. From dabbing the sweat away from your brow in the summer, to covering your lap to keep snack crumbs off your burando, to wiping off bus seats of anything icky, a handkerchief in your bag can go a long way to keeping you and your lolita neat and tidy.

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7. Why Do I Wear Lolita?

I have a tiny, unreliable income, I'm disabled in ways that makes getting dressed rather difficult, and I'm genderqueer with a masculine leaning identity. Lolita seems like the last fashion I would get into but yet, here I am in all my frilly wonder. Why I wear lolita can be largely boiled down to one reason : it makes me happy; but there are a lot of factors that have influence me into wearing the fashion myself instead of just admiring it.

Lolita, being an alternative fashion at its core, has always had guys wearing it. I've always been a very feminine person even though I don't identify as female at all, and I've always had a love for skirts and dresses and super cute clothes. Finding out that one of the lolita forefathers was male had a huge impact on the way I, this skinny little trans boy, viewed clothes in relation to gender. While the idea that clothing style has nothing to do with gender has only become prevalent in the United States in recent years, back then (all the way back in 2005 I think), the idea that somewhere guys were able to wear traditionally feminine styled clothing really helped me accept the fact that I could be feminine without necessarily being female. It took many, many years for me to get comfortable actually presenting femininely, but my love of lolita was a huge reason why I pushed my boundaries in regards to gender presentation. Wearing lolita has been more or less the ultimate culmination of the self confidence I gained while experimenting with my gender and the way I present myself.

Being disabled, both mentally and physically, means that I spend a lot of time at home in my pjs. The extra effort I put into getting dressed for when I go out, even when I'm not wearing lolita, goes a long way towards tempering some of the symptoms I have. For me, getting dressed is going to hurt anyway so I might as well go the extra mile and wear something that makes me look awesome and feel good about myself. What I gain from this extra effort far outweighs the cost of doing it. When I'm dressed up, I'm happier, I handle my chronic pain better, and I'm not as bothered by the side effects of my medications.

Lolita is a very expensive hobby but, for me, it's well worth the strain on my tiny income because of how happy it makes me. It's a very positive force in my life and it's become a huge part of how I identify.

Part 18/52 of the Lolita 52 Week Challenge.

5, 8, & 20

Whoops, I've been slacking in the blogging department Dx

5. Wardrobe Turnover
So far, turnover in my wardrobe has been pretty much nonexistant. Since I don't have a whole lot of income, I am very careful with what I buy, especially in Lolita. If I am not 100% in love with something and can make at least one coord with what I already have or am planning on getting in the near future, I don't get it. Because of this, I can't see myself parting with anything I have in my wardrobe any time soon. I love it all too much ;v;

8. Why don't I wear Lolita more?
I don't leave my house enough OTL Plus my wardrobe is still to small for me to wear lolita more without having a ton of repeat coords.

20. How satisfied am I with my current wardrobe?
I'm pretty happy with my wardrobe right now. There's definitely still room for improvement and, you know, more stuff, but for only about a year and a half of work, it's a pretty good, well rounded wardrobe.

Part 15-17/52 of the Lolita 52 Week Challenge.

39. Most versatile Lolita item I own

The number one versatile item I own is a plain black skirt with a plain old ruffle at the bottom that I made years and years ago. It's a great simple skirt on it's own and it makes for a great underskirt too since a lot of my coords feature black in there somewhere.

I've worn this skirt under other things to add just a bit of extra length to otherwise too short skirts :

And I've worn it all on its own in simple coords :

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10. How I first found out about Lolita

Once upon a time, years and years ago at the height of my weeb phase, I came across the mv for Malice Mizer's Beast of Blood.

The lolita's gateway drug.

Like many other lolitas before me, I absolutely fell in love with the beautiful clothing the band wore, especially that of the guitarist's. I did a ton of research on the band, listening to all their music I could find on youtube and looking at many, many pictures all across the internet. The two most mind blowing bits of information that I found were that the fashion this gorgeous musician wore was called Gothic Lolita and that Mana was, in fact, a man.

To tiny-me, this was a huge deal because, even though (at the time) I identified as strictly male, I wanted so bad to wear cute clothes. Here was this beautiful person who identified as the same gender as me while still wearing clothes that I admired and envied, boldly and without shame. My gothy, queer boi heart would never be the same.

After my initial research binge, I revisited the beautiful world of lolita every couple of years, fawning over gorgeous dresses (I thought) I could never in a million years afford, let alone gather the courage to wear. Sometime in the middle of high school, I came across my first real lolita love, Mary Magdalene. I loved everything about the brand, from the jewel tones prominent in their solid pieces to the elegant and mature cuts. When I found their Enid OP, I knew that, one day, come hell or high water, I would wear this fashion.

My first love.

Fast forward through just a couple more years where I slowly reaccustom myself to wearing feminine clothing and adjust my gender identity to better reflect how I feel about myself, to where I actually start planning to build a wardrobe based around my love of Mary Magdalene. I do tons more research and plan my future classic wardrobe extensively and then fall ass backwards into being a creepy cute sweet lolita instead, but that's a whole different story.

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